Liz and Martin Week 5 – From Angry and Frustrated to Assertive and confident!

Big learning curves this week for both Martin and Liz as they have both had to deal with emotions that they have found difficult to deal with!! This was a great lead into one of the topics which we were covering this week - emotions, feelings and behaviours! There was intense concentration as we reviewed the completed wheel of life with each of them and discussed the areas which were causing them most concern. We visualised the image of what that perfectly balanced wheel looked like, and discussed how far from this they were. What was holding them back from achieving this- emotions and communication! Two topics which I am sure we all at times struggle with. Anger and frustration and how to deal with them - were the two biggest stumbling blocks which came up, and actually if you have never learned the strategies to deal with these how do you know how to overcome them! 

Recognising the onset of these emotions, particularly when we spend so much time bottling up our emotions and hiding behind masks, is incredibly difficult! To highlight this we used the poem The Mask (http://www.steviekidd.co.uk/blog/the-mask-i-wear/) A discussion on strategies to combat this, which you will have seen some of if you have been keeping track of the updates on our facebook page, followed. Expert advice provided by (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Stevie-Kidd-People/144677305584790) Expert advice provided by Ali G kept the discussion filled with ideas to overcome and combat this.

Looking at the language we use when we are dealing with these situations was an eye-opener to both Liz and Martin, in the heat of the moment we have ALL said things that we shouldn’t and said them in a manner we shouldn’t!! WHY – is very accusing and makes people defensive in their response – so keep the “WHY” question until you have established the facts and situations CALMLY! Having calmed down be ASSERTIVE not AGGRESSIVE in what you are putting out there. Putting your point across assertively is a skill that we all need to master! Keep watch on the facebook page to learn how to master it!

We ended the session on a high, as dynamic (and loud!) duo mastered power words (Liz – SENSATIONAL and Martin – AMAZING!) and recognised the emotions and feelings that surrounded each! What a difference as they took on board all of the sessions learning’s and assertively projected it out loud (very loudly if we are honest as Katie had them standing on a chair and shouting it loudly over Don’t Stop Believing) The result, having recognised the emotions, stepped out of their comfort zone and believed in the phrases they were shouting, was two confident and proud individuals left the building with their minds set on achieving the challenges that Katie had set them!

What were the challenges????? You will need to wait and see the results in a few weeks!

Watch out next week though as we meet Karen (Martin’s wife)and Michael (Liz’s partner) for the first of their sessions!

LET’S DO IT!!!

1 Comment

Posted by Sarahjane Sarkhosh on 08 September 2011

It seems like Liz and Martin were pushed right out of their comfort zones during this session as they were encouraged to deal with things they may have avoided thinking about in the past - of course, it''s when we are challenged that we learn best.. Well done!

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