Control, Influence and Concern
Why do we all live in the past? Why do we continually analyse situations that have happened in our lives that we can’t do anything about even though that time has gone? We can’t control or influence the past so why do we spend all our time being concerned with it? You have no control over what happened you have no influence over what happened, it’s gone and it’s been and gone so move on! Move your thoughts to something you can control or you can influence.
I’ll give you an example... Its Monday ... you look out the window and it’s raining and you start moaning that the weather is absolutely rubbish it’s completely ruined your day! But can you control the weather? NO do you have any influence over the weather? NO! So why waste even one minute being concerned about if there is nothing you can do! Then you get into the car and start driving to work and low and behold you get stuck in traffic! So you start getting stressed about the traffic you start screaming at the driver in front but let’s face facts you can’t control that traffic jam, you have no influence over that traffic jam so why spend anytime being concerned about it!
Let’s say you are worrying sick over the outcome of a job interview. Once the Interview has finished it has finished. You have no control over the decision of the interview you have no more influence over it so why spend your time being concerned about it!
So anytime you feel you are moaning about something or worrying unnecessarily ask yourself these questions... Can I control this situation? Can I influence this situation and if the answer is NO then DON’T spend your time being concerned about it. Put your energy and your thoughts into the things that you have control and influence over.
Posted by Amanda Parvin on 02 March 2010 in : KDS Training, KDS Youth Training, Training corporate, Training employability
5 Comments
Posted by
john cassidy
on 07 March 2010
wise words ! i used a phrase durin the academy , whether anyone took any notice ! if u must worry, worry about the things u can change , not the things u cant change ! hope like this ! john cassidy 7th mar.
Posted by
Ali
on 02 March 2010
Well said Amanda.
Posted by
Ali
on 02 March 2010
Well said Amanda.
Posted by
Ali
on 02 March 2010
Well said Amanda.
Posted by
katie
on 02 March 2010
This is something I wish I had learned years ago!!! lol
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